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Society’s flawed body wisdom


Hello Villagers, here is a question I asked myself today after being told “I was pregnant” & when I said no to which someone replied: “Oh, yes, yes you are!” ..Seriously? & here is my long over thought answer.

Question: When did it become socially acceptable to ask another person if they’re “pregnant”?

Short answer: Never

Long answer: Alright Ladies, this is the terrible question we do NOT under any circumstances want to ever be asked in our lives. To be perfectly honest I find it plain rude & devaluing; I won’t lie it was an elderly woman, and I’ve been asked twice now by someone of wisdom if I was pregnant or they have commented casually on my weight, & when I discuss this with someone the answer is usually get is “It’s just because they’re old” well world like it or not I DO NOT agree with that answer.

At what age in time did we tell ourselves it was okay to causally comment on someone’s weight whether they’re too thin or to fat or just too? Because that’s basically what someone is saying when they ask if someone’s pregnant; it translates to “you’re a chunker”.

I have had self-esteem issues my whole life, & let me tell you it takes a lot of time and effort & self-coaching to “Delete” that feeling of self-loathing & body obsession…mine obviously isn’t fully deleted I have some terrible memories drilled into my head I wish I could beam out but I can’t instead I just tell myself to use these memories & become a better version of myself & not let the world weight me down & then some days I feel like the world has dropped a brick through my glass window mind, & I feel 14 again. I just want to pick up the brick and throw it right back! I get so infuriated that society has taught us it’s okay to make each other feel devalued. I used to have days where I said to myself “Why not just take that self-esteem and throw it away? I have none anyways” I am far away from that person now, But it’s easy to let her back in; Especially when I get a curve ball thrown at me like “are you expecting?”

All I can say to make my long answer short is whatever age you are please be aware words do, and always will hurt. Something you say can affect someone’s whole day, even whole life. & yes it’s up to us what we do with what someone says to us, but it can still hurt & stick with us, we are emotional beings. & do yourself a favor, unless you know the person & know they’re trying to conceive do not under any circumstance ask if they’re expecting.



Hello Villagers,

I wanted to announce that I’ve decided to take the challenge of NaNoWriMo
“National Novel Writing Month” Basically it starts in November, and I write a novel in a month!( I encourage all to check it out, its free) writers are allowed to start now, and I need to average at least 1000 or more words a day! isn’t that insane?
Below is a Teaser of my Prologue(which could change, like I said a teaser) its about 488 words, and I have chapter One started that a little over 1000! Honestly I have no title for my book-to-be yet, it will be a surprise, also I would love some feedback on this teaser I posted. Thanks a Million Villagers!

Julia Montgomery has hidden away, in a small town in Connecticut by the name of Britter Cover. Hiding from family and friends telling no one where she has gone; hoping that someday her heart will be mended from her tragic lost love.
Once a strong successful women Julia has now found herself alone filled with grief bartending in this small town and filled with the memory of the last time she held Sean’s hand as he closed his eyes , and his body became lifeless on that hospital bed. Battered and bruised inside and out, Julia was in shock unable to accept she would never see her fiancés face again, feel his touch, or hear his whispers in her ear, so she ran.
She never forgave herself she thought it was her fault, they should have stayed home that night, the rain was too heavy and the roads were too dark. Julia had just received a call from the bank approving her and Sean for a loan for small space her and Sean had their eye on for her art gallery, Sean insisted on taking her out that night to celebrate but It all happened so fast, Sean couldn’t see that deer standing in the middle of the road, the car rolled and everything went silent in slow motion she could hear Sean scream echoing in the darkness, his green eyes lit up reflecting off the review mirror, pupils completely dilated and then it was black.
Waking up confused, in a hospital bed she screamed out for Sean. Looking her left there he was lifeless; eyes closed his chest slowly rising but no other movement. She screamed his name rising from her bed, shaking; stiff and battered she ripped out her IV as doctors and nurses rushed into the room holding her back as she reached out for him, trying to push them away she was too weak, yelling, and sobbing she felt pressure swell to her head, again everything went black.
This time waking up, through her groggy eyes she could see a women, and feel a slight grip on her hands, it was her sister, Emily; sobbing, and preying under her breathe. Julia let out a sigh every muscle on her body ached; her sister sprang to life, calling the doctors in again.
It was all a blur, her sister was still sobbing, the doctors, and nurses where talking to fast, their voices fading in and out. She looked to her left calling for Sean, but all she could see was a blurred lifeless shadow, motionless through the curtain. She looked at her sister feeling dizzy, tears running down her face from her swollen eyes, rippling over her lips like small waterfalls, everything went silent focusing on her sister bleak face she squeezed her hand, leaning in she whispered in her ear “he’s gone, I’m so sorry, he’s gone” … it echoed in the whole room “he’s gone”. Julia couldn’t breathe.

By T.Carrier
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Frenzy Fall


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I’ve posted the photo of myself above, not to be self-indulgent as if to say “look at me” Honestly there’s not much to look at besides the fact I just cut of at least 12 inches of hair! I feel lighter, as if i could float away? No, no, ha; but It’s a change I thought I would share.

Anyways, Fall as always has been beautiful, and inspiring I love sweater weather, but on that topic, I really need some new sweaters! ha ha. I’ve been thinking about writing excessively, but honestly, haven’t been doing any. I would love to share something about my ” book?:” But I can’t, I have not wrote a word to share, and I have misplaces the USB drive I kept my writing on during our move; How frustrating, right? Maybe it’s a sign to start over I wasn’t really sure where I was going with my writings, it just felt like jumbles of word vomit that was spiraling into a wall; villagers have you ever felt that way? what are some tips to get out of that “vomit-funk”?

I do call this blog, the cat shack, here’s one of my kitty’s, this is mister Sam, can’t you get lost in those golden orange eyes?
I’ve been trying to lose weight and have been doing pilates, and yoga he always loves to join in! I have a long way to go, I injured my Achilles tendon (and I just joined the gym) again, fustrating, so I can do some basic yoga and Pilates and a medium paced walking it okay, but no big cardio that I’ve been hoping for!

Any who, Namaste villagers, and YES it’s thanksgiving weekend here in O’Canada! Happy thanksgiving, I’m thankful for being a part of this beautiful world, my family, my friends, and my love David.

Here is a photo of mine and Mr. Daves Feast! (now you know why he loves me)

Chapter 1: HELP!


182199_10151652807030030_393080854_nWhat an interesting day it has been. I had a set plan to end up in one place, but found myself in another due to a wrong turn. “I’ve been in the city over a year and still get lost.” I guess that’s all the fun.

I’ve been trying to focus on my writing today and it’s true the first chapter is the hardest,  to be honest I can’t figure out where my story is going if I have a chapter started or a prologue. I have all these ideas and can’t settle,however I do have 570 words written, they are flowing like a river and then they just come to a wall because yes I’m writing, but I haven’t thought through fully how I want to develop my characters or plot I keep thinking it will come to me; it will right?

What I really need is some advice, from any authors out there on their journey, any takers?

Thanks for reading bloggers,


Come Back Home – for my sister Tessa.


SANYO DIGITAL CAMERASeptember12th 2010 was a rough day for most in my family, on this day I received a phone call from my mother asking me if i was sitting down, I could hear it in her voice this was not good news, and some how I new before she said it that he was gone.

My father had passed away at the young age of 45, one day before his birthday. We we’re not talking, haven’t spoke for over 2 months, we had a rough father daughter relationship as did him and my sister. (above is a picture of my father and Sister)

I wish we could have had one last positive conversion, to truly make amends and have closure, but death does not wait for the stubborn, it waits for no one.

However I have had many dreams since then where he’s by my side with my sister and I, honestly just hanging out, when these dreams started I immediately felt a great weight lifted off my shoulders, this was him saying “it’s okay”.

a few months ago, I had a turn in my head and this song is what came out of it.

I hear you crying..
You say there’s nothing I can do.
But my heart is breaking
sitting here holding you.

If I could change time
I’d change it all for you.
I’d fill in the pieces
the ones troubling you/

If I could bring him home
I’d change the roads
I’d make us new paths
You’d both say you’re sorry
and then you’d just laugh..

But I can’t bring him home
I can’t change the roads
or make us new paths
I’ll hold out my hand
hoping someday you’ll laugh.

I hear him crying
He says there’s something I can do.
He tells me his heart is breaking
as he watches over you.
he hands me this letter
and tells me to sing it all to you..

If he could come back home
he’d tell you hes sorry
he’d make stronger paths
he’d hold out his hand
and you both would just laugh
but that’s not how it goes
he knows he can’t come home…

But he gave me this letter
and I’m singing it to you
please always remember he’s watching over you

If he could come back home
He’d tell you he’s sorry
he’d make stronger paths
he’d hold out his hand
and you both would just laugh.
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rip daddy.

Night & Day


Through night and day our seasons end
Through fun and play our life begins
Through hurt and sorrow life starts to change
with old age, greys, wrinkles, and pain
But life goes on and it should
we live, we die
we could, we should
our past becomes our future
and our future our past
what was, will be
whats now, is then
whats over will start
until the end
as life slowly falls apart piece by piece
Until the quiet world, of the deceased.

I Wrote this a little over 5 years ago, and thought I would share, thanks for reading!

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Who is this stranger?
This drifter?
I speak “what is your desire?”
The voice is deafening and profound.
The strangers lips appear dry,they are not wet with sound.
They are numb, they are breathless and wearied.
All is silent.
I am alone.
always alone.
”what is my desire?”
The voice is deafening and profound.


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Liebster Blog Award



Thank You Amy Rostron at Chasing Dreams  for nominating me for the Liesbter Blog Award. This just made my day, I was at work on break scrolling through my email, when I saw I was nominated, I was very ecstatic considering I am defiantly a Blog-Procrastinator; the nomination gave me motivation to crack down to organize work life/home life/ me time/writing. Considering the fact I started the blog in 2011 to find some type of inspiration/motivation to start writing again, it’s time to me to take advantage of all the  interesting bloggers on word press, with tips for writing and just in general life story’s that keep me at the edge of my seat;Just Magic

So for those that I nominate – here is how you accept your nomination and continue circulating.

First is to accept the award, post the picture of the Liebster Award on the top of post and say who nominated you for the award and list their blog site.

  • Rule number 1 is to list 11 random facts about me.
  • Rule number 2 is to nominate 11 other bloggers for the Liebster Award and list their blogsites.
  • Rule number 3 is to notify the bloggers of their award.
  • Rule number 4 is to ask the award winners 11 questions to answer when they accept their Liebster Award.
  • Rule number 5  is I answer the questions left for me by the blogger who gave me the award.

I nominate…

  1. Quanta…  http://alexswanberg.wordpress.com/
  2. Briana…  http://whenibecameanauthor.wordpress.com/
  3. Andrew… http://andrewtoynbee.wordpress.com/
  4. Risa… http://risaroe.wordpress.com/
  5. Julianne… http://juliannealcott.wordpress.com/
  6. A Faded Romantic… http://afadedromantic.wordpress.com/
  7. Belinda… http://belindawilliamsbooks.com/
  8. Peachy… http://peachyks22.wordpress.com/
  9. Britton… http://brittonshay.wordpress.com/
  10. Butterfly… http://butterflyx3.wordpress.com/
  11. Chelsea… http://thejennymacbookblog.wordpress.com/

11 Random facts about me

  1. I love cooking; especially something new!
  2. If alone in my car I sing loudly..not very well might I add!
  3. I miss-place my glasses at least 10 times a day(thank god for my better half! He can always find them)
  4. I have 2 beautiful boy’s (Sam and Blacky)..My kittys
  5. My better half and I have the nick name Jerk-face for each other; That’s love!
  6. I’m IN-LOVE with Trevor Hall (everyone needs to give his music a try, just beautiful)
  7. Turquoise is beyond my favorite color/stone/anything
  8. I use to dislike red wine, now its a guilty pleasure of mine!
  9. I’m a Facebook creeper; can’t lie!
  10. I love Steven Madden designs
  11. The whole time I’ve been writing this my better half DAVID has been poking at me/bugging me/talking to me and ticking me off; the fact he’s alive means I love him! 🙂

11 Questions to answer from Amy

  1. Where’s your dream location?
    My dream location has to  be somewhere fun not hot; this is a tricky one, I work in the tourism and hospitality field and see places everyday I’d love to go to- I know it sound’s childish but I love to go to Orlando, Fl to visit Disney, universal, sea-world etc…and Niagara Falls, ON. also  Bali, I have to say after reading eat,prey,love I had the urge to travel there; as you can see I’m very indecisive can’t have just one dream location!
  2. What 3 people (anybody past or present) would you invite for dinner if you could?
    1.Trevor Hall-His music is beautiful and upon first hearing him it made me want to be a better human being ;I’ve always wanted to meet him/see him live.
    2.Adam Sandler– Hilarious individual since Lunch Lady-Land his comedy and films have always had a special place in my funny bone.
    3.Nicholas Sparks- He has always been and inspiration to my writing since I was in high school and first read A Bend In The Road.
  3. Who’s your Idol?
    My idols have fluctuated over the years since I first learned what a idol was from Elisha Woods to Pink and her deep songs I felt I related to in my middle school years. When I look back the only person who stands out in my mind is a counselor I had in middle school, and part of high school her name was  Mrs April her “Girls Group” I was part of helped me develop my self esteem and have confidence in myself, I haven’t seen her in a few years, and we’re not in touch but I hope she knows how much she had/has helped me.
  4. What’s your favorite book?
    I’m strange, my favorite books are always the one I’m reading I can’t have just ONE favorite it’s not fair to all the authors. Right now I’m reading FEED by Mira Grant, Interesting take on news reporters, the end of the world and zombies.
  5. Whats your dream job?
    I can’t honestly say I have a dream job off the top of my head; besides working for myself. I just want to be happy and respected where ever I end up; a job is only as good and you think it is, which I’ve told myself on those mornings I don’t want to get up for work! Always make time for yourself and loved ones, don’t let yourself be devalued by others, and make changes where changes need to be made is my advice to myself.
  6. Whats your perfect date?
    Well, I’m a foodie I love to go to a restaurant with great food  and then out for a drink to listen to some live music. I Love Date-Night every other Friday is our date night we usually go out for food then home to watch a movie/play video games too if nothings going on up town, that’s a perfect date for me.
  7. What’s the most romantic thing you’ve ever done/had done for you?
    Something I’ve done that’s really cheesy was in high school. I want to be unconventional and got my boyfriend a rose,  thought that was pretty romantic at the time, but honestly that’s not my definition of romance. The most romantic thing i’ve have done for me was my better half taking an interest in the things I love, and remembering the things I say that I may have forgot about and surprising me with something simple like  Dexter bobble head for my birthday(I was ecstatic), and also showing up at work with a dozen roses for me he got mega brownie points for that.
  8. What’s your guilty pleasure?
    Grape sugar coated candy I love to head down to Freak Lunch box and get a big bag it never last long and im left with a guilty tummy ache and a sugar rush.
  9. What’s your favorite food?
    Well my favorite fast food is Chinese food always has been, my mother has work at a Chinese restaurant for 25 years and I’m still not sick of it, this could go under a guilty pleasure of mine as-well! other than that I don’t have 1 food that I could consider a favorite.
  10. What would you do first if you won a million $?
    Well, upon being told I won a million,at first I would jump, scream and pass-out all in that order! I would pay off all my debts, help my family and friends who have always been there for me, take a year off to travel, get married and buy a home!
  11. Where do you see yourself in 5 years time?
    In 5 years I hope to have publish a novel I’m currently writing, Maybe a supervisor where I work now, and Possibly a mother and a wife.

My questions for my nominees

  1. What made you start blogging?
  2. What are your top 3 locations you would love to travel?
  3. What are your top 2 novels?
  4. What was the most interesting food you tried?
  5. If someone asked you to give them a random piece of advice, what would you say?
  6. Who is your idol?
  7. How would you explain your basic life philosophy?
  8. What’s your guilty pleasure?
  9. When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?
  10. If you could try out any job for a day, what would you like to try?
  11. What’s the biggest personal change you’ve ever made?

Maternal Monday’s



Good Morning, Bloggers!

Is everybody as enthusiastic, that it’s Monday as I am? (I’m typing this with complete sarcasm and eye-rolls) I thought today would be a superb morning to sleep in before having to fully rejuvenate my brain to get in work mode for 230pm (yes I work late hours!)…However this is not the case 7:20am I’m awake, children in the hallway; laughter, jumping, and screaming! Hey it’s an apartment I’m use to that by now, right? I close my eyes only to have the constant urge to throw off my blanket and do some laundry, HONESTLY BRAIN? At the sound of children you crave laundry, maternal instincts much?

So there I am basket full of clothes taking the elevator to the 2nd floor listening to whispers of the busy apartment building as I pass each floor.

In the laundry room, my first machine of choice eats my change, “FANTASTIC” I think.
Now after all the washing is said and done, and about an hour of waiting for the dryer goes by, I reach into the dryer only to find that my clothes are COMPLETELY damp, Just great! So $4.50 later I’m hanging damp clothes in our spare room! I still think to myself “If this is the worst thing that happens today, I’m In the clear”

On a positive, more productive note, I did focus on my “to be” novel this morning, and got some writing in! Well Bloggers time to hopefully get a nap in!

People Watching



While, out and about on a beautiful day, my girlfriend and I found ourselves at Starbucks, enjoying some iced tea chatting, people watching, and chatting about people watching at Starbucks. I smell coffee, hear slight chatter, and observe young writers,old writers, students, working away on their novels, essays, maybe even a thesis or two!
This had us chatting about how we use to write. this made me think about a novel I once started a few years ago and did not finished due to my computer being stolen, and the only copy of my writing was on that computer(How bright was I?)…nonetheless,I’ve decided I’m starting a novel this year! I may not finish it this year but it will be an exciting challenge! I already have 147 words…here’s to 147 more!